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13:09:50 From Alexandra Kislevitz : The team I am managing has expanded since we have started working remotely, and more and more I feel like I need to be a disciplinarian to make sure the process we have in place is being followed. I’ve found that this really triggers me. I hate confrontation and it feels like this is coming up more often than usual for me.
13:11:08 From Anne : Just to summarize, I want to move out of management to direct/staff tole this is being met with skepticism which then makes me doubt myself.
13:16:14 From Helen Shin : re: online meeting
13:16:38 From Helen Shin : It’s Not Just You: In Online Meetings, Many Women Can’t Get a Word In
Overlapping chatter. Interruptions. Few nonverbal cues. For women, virtual meetings can mirror the inequities of in-person meetings.
13:22:57 From Lauren : @Alexandra, are these direct reports? I’m curious about working with people who are not direct reports to follow processes and that’s a challenge
13:27:14 From Anne : @Allexanda is there anything positive in this employee’s performance? any balance?
13:29:13 From Anne : Is there a difference between respect for your authority as the manager and individual “liking”
13:29:20 From Helen Shin : I have a schedule conflict, need to drop. See you soon
13:36:30 From danifankhauser : I can relate, Alexandra – also hate confrontation and want to be liked!
13:36:31 From Hannah : it’s nice that as a manager you are considering all these things! your employees should be grateful that you are trying to improve yourself and communication with them. not all managers do this! 🙂
13:42:14 From wendyavenius : Maybe set some boundaries for yourself, and him upfront so all is clear moving forward.
13:42:32 From Alexandra Kislevitz : thank you! appreciate the positive feedback. @lauren 2 of the people are not direct reports (the people I am having the most issues with) – you’re right that its a challenge when they aren’t direct reports
13:43:38 From Dana Wakeley : I resonate with the self-acceptance piece. I struggle with wanting to push away the trigger instead of confronting it and/or accepting it. That in turn leaves me frustrated with myself for reacting the way I do, instead of giving myself compassion.
13:54:49 From adachen : The not-knowing-everything but having to make decisions part really resonates with me right now, Dani ❤️
13:56:55 From Anne : I think as women we sometimes err on the side of “being nice” It is the double edged sword!
13:57:15 From wendyavenius : He will get a better sense of who you are as a leader and asking to be shown a greater level of respect may turn into a better relationship overall! Good luck!
13:57:23 From sarahdonna : Totally agree – I’m guilty of being too nice/people pleasing too this was really helpful!
13:57:30 From adachen : If you’re ok with it – share the email with us after you send it!
13:57:31 From danifankhauser : Thank you all!
13:58:00 From Dana Wakeley : I’m with you!
13:59:31 From Kerrie Nason : Thanks for sharing!
13:59:36 From Dana Wakeley : Thank you <3 🙂
13:59:47 From Anne : Thank you both!
14:00:00 From adachen : Thank you Alexandra & Dani!
14:00:13 From sarahdonna : Thank you 🙂
14:00:15 From Hannah : thank you! great to hear similar stories and have you share!
14:00:16 From wendyavenius : Thanks all for sharing!
14:00:37 From Alexandra Kislevitz : thanks for all the support everyone! there’s something reassuring to hear other people feel the same way 🙂