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00:05:57 Leah Suzette: hey!
00:07:03 Emily Rose Prats: i’m not sure where this falls in the scheme of this call, but i will say that something i’ve been trying to navigate lately is how to communicate to a loved one when they complain to you about someone else, but you feel that they are in fact in the “wrong” — like you don’t agree that the other person is “the problem” but clearly they expect you to be “on their side” when they bring you this information
00:07:04 alexandrakislevitz: When work is incredibly busy and crazy, how do you best stay grounded and calm given the turmoil around you?
00:07:10 Leah Suzette: mostly here to listen in, but I definitely want to hear a little about coaching difficult people – thinking specifically about my difficult boss and how I can manage her
00:07:18 Ada Chen: How do you narrow down job search criteria – like I can’t decide if I want go for a fully remote job or not, or a startup vs. bigger tech company
00:07:26 Emily Rose Prats: (like a friend or family member)
00:08:00 Ada Chen: @Emily rose – I have this!!! AKA many of my friends getting married
00:08:29 Lauren Wu: I just got off a 24 hour flight so very out of it but really wanted to join! Currently thinking through if I want to leave my current job and if so, when is the right time to leave?
00:08:30 Neena Stephen: here to listen today, will need to jump off in 40. Hii everyone!
00:08:43 Ada Chen: Hi Neena!!
00:14:52 Leah Suzette: it’s hard Emily Rose but I think honesty is always best, I’ve been on the other end, where I expect my friend to be on my side, but then they’re not, and they are open about why, and it helps me step back and reevaluate, and I always appreciate it!
00:33:50 geenawakeley: Hi!
00:34:22 Leah Suzette: feel free to skip my question! I am at work also so I can’t chime in ☺️ so far listening is fantastic though! taking notes!
00:41:39 Lauren Wu: @Alexandra – Totally feel this. Going through the same exact same thing right now.
00:46:49 Leah Suzette: was in this exact position Geena… with my last job, I stayed because I needed… insurance, income, benefits, PTO, etc. things that supported my lifestyle. I didn’t quit, even though every day I wanted to walk out. I would cry in the bathroom, in my car, on lunch, when I got home. Detachment was SUPER helpful, and then also thinking “I can only control me”, so then, what could I do for me to help me get through it. And I focused on that, and just accepted and allowed the shittiness, and it was almost like, the second I let go and stopped applying my expectations to the experience, I found and achieved a way out.
00:48:35 Emily Rose Prats: my therapist and i say this every week: empathy—it’s a blessing and a curse ??
00:48:52 Ada Chen: Ditto what Leah said – when I’m in the office now, I don’t go to my desk in the morning because I can’t hold space for my team for the entire day
00:49:26 Ada Chen: And that has made letting go of this job a lot easier
00:54:07 Leah Suzette: this is kind of equivalent to journaling, but I will just pop open a Google doc and rage out, sometimes I delete it, other times I just save all of those notes in a folder on the GDrive 😛 – I also had a secret place in that office building where I would literally hide for five minutes and allow myself to feel and just breathe or panic and cry, like whatever to get it out for a minute
00:56:01 Leah Suzette: sorry, I said Geena and just realized this was Alexandra speaking, apologies ☺️
00:56:56 Lauren Wu: My coworker and I tell each other every day and multiple times a day that our job is “just a job” so our frustrations and emotions don’t bleed into the rest of our lives. It’s super hard for me to do which is why we have to say it to each other constantly.
00:57:36 Ada Chen: Aside from journaling, I’ve also been working in extra random days off too. I had the best day just taking space for myself and wandering around coffee shops
00:57:39 Emily Rose Prats: @lauren wu YASSS i often say aloud to myself or in a group: we’re not performing heart surgery! no one is dying!
00:57:53 Emily Rose Prats: helps me put things in perspective
00:58:06 alexandrakislevitz: hahaha yes!
00:59:03 Lauren Wu: Ada – yes! I love mental health days. Sometimes you just need a Wednesday to sit in a cafe and stare out the window.
01:06:13 Leah Suzette: I’m kind of in that boat Ada… I landed what I thought was my dream art job only to find chaos and a narcissist boss, and even though it’s only my first art job, if feels like I’ll never find what I’m looking for i.e. art/design job, with a good team, organized processes and systems, less drama, full benefits, PTO, flex time, etc. it makes me scared a bit, and I often question if I will need to pick up and move my family to find something better, and then money/cost fear sets in, of course hah
01:14:33 Leah Suzette: I feel that so deeply Ada, I’m here for you. That “I am not enough” ness can tear at you. YOU ARE enough. YOU ARE worthy of your dreams. You will find it. I was just where you are now, you will figure it out, I PROMISE ❤️
01:15:49 Emily Rose Prats: and also you treat your team with the respect that you aren’t being shown — you are driving cultural change already in that respect
01:19:33 Emily Rose Prats: i have to go to work picking up a child from school, but thank you all. love to ada. see you soon
01:26:05 alexandrakislevitz: jumping off for a 2:30 but this was great — thanks everyone for sharing 🙂 hope everyone enjoys the rest of their week!
01:28:53 geenawakeley: Same here. Thanks for sharing everyone! Happy early international women’s day!
01:29:11 Lauren Wu: You got this Ada!
01:29:56 geenawakeley: Yes Ada! You got this!
01:30:08 Lauren Wu: I also have all your fears Ada. You are also one of the strongest people I know!
01:31:13 Ada Chen: Thank you thank you <3
01:32:58 Leah Suzette: much love!