January Group Coaching Call: 2021 Goals

Share a question and an update in the Slack channel.

Conversations during the call

00:15:19 Belma McCaffrey: eagerness and excitement

00:15:19 Jennifer Scheib: Grateful & Excited

00:15:23 Wendy Avenius: Excited & Nervous

00:15:26 Gyasi Schwartz-Woods: I felt busy but not overwhelmed …busy with good feelings.

00:15:27 Jennifer Janes: Focus on opportunity

00:15:29 Kate Barney: Excitement and hopefulness

00:15:30 Emily Rose Prats: nervous excitement

00:15:38 Alison Barsan: nervous and excited too

00:15:38 Hannah Webb: Eager and content

00:15:39 Craig Pais: Nervous and excited!

00:15:40 Kristina Lough: Anxiety then Relief

00:15:50 Dana Wakeley: Scattered but feeling more grounded being here 🙂

00:15:52 Aleta Williams: Be okay with where I am

00:16:01 Kristin Chasky: Anxiety and relief is exactly what I felt too!

00:31:21 Aleta Williams: Be kinder to myself…love that

00:33:08 Wendy Avenius: We speak to ourselves more than anyone else, and we are our harshest critic.

00:36:34 Jennifer Scheib: Resonate with a lot of what you are saying Kristina. More calm, I put that down too. Bringing in more creativity and hobbies that will help pull me out of work hustle. Overcoming the pressures I put on myself (self-criticism) to perform and achieve at work!

00:37:33 Emily Rose Prats: i am doing exactly this process right now

00:37:52 Gyasi Schwartz-Woods: What is the name of this? When X happens I will focus on the why?

00:38:20 Jennifer Janes: Implementation intention

00:39:36 Aleta Williams: Change environment

00:39:47 Gyasi Schwartz-Woods: Thank you @Jennifer Janes 🙂

00:41:18 Aleta Williams: Let the good stuff build on the good stuff

00:41:20 Emily Rose Prats: i really like coloring and sewing as activities to focus my mind on the physical instead of racing thoughts

00:42:39 Emily Rose Prats: i live alone, so it’s easier for me to speak aloud to myself and celebrate wins like that

00:45:23 Aleta Williams: I need to start speaking aloud to myself too…maybe it will help me not be so much in my head

00:45:29 Kalena Michalec: Yes! Same Craig. Avoidance behavior is really big for me as well right now.

00:45:36 Emily Rose Prats: omg avoiding avoiding is one of my goals too ; )

00:45:42 Alison Barsan: Yes, me too!!!

00:45:54 Aleta Williams: So that is why I am so much in my phone…avoidance!!!

00:46:04 Hannah Webb: Same as well! Lol Great one Craig!

00:46:11 Alison Barsan: Yes! Yes!

00:47:18 Jennifer Scheib: Feel lighter, yes!

00:47:54 Alison Barsan: master my circumstance! I like it!

00:47:58 Jennifer Janes: I am also working on stopping the comparison of myself to others. So important! I am focusing on my own definition of success not what others think!

00:49:22 Aleta Williams: Maybe avoidance is the cause of my spending more time on personal stuff during the day than working

00:49:37 Jennifer Janes: Check out Ditching Imposter Syndrome by Clare Josa. She has great resources!

00:49:54 Emily Rose Prats: yaasss therapy

00:50:20 Aleta Williams: Great things happen when you move towards the fear

00:51:17 Gyasi Schwartz-Woods: I think it’s also great to bring up the pandemic feelings – I feel like I overlook that a bit as I think it shouldn’t have affected me but it has and it’s important to work through that as well.

00:52:02 Hannah Webb: Totally agree, we can’t press pause forever and wait, love that piece to address it now

00:52:08 Wendy Avenius: Gallup StrengthsFinder has a book you can get at the library that digs deeper into results..

00:52:09 Dana Wakeley: I agree, Gyasi!

00:52:32 Alison Barsan: It is very refreshing to hear your willingness and open-mindedness Craig!

00:52:51 Jennifer Scheib: You’re in the right place Craig! I’m a lover of learning too, this group is great for feeding that!

00:52:54 Alison Barsan: Brene Brown

00:53:15 Kristina Lough: Yes, Brene Brown!

00:53:29 Jennifer Scheib: Brene! Her podcasts are great too.

00:53:43 Kate Barney: In talking about resources – I am also trying to be more present and carve out time for myself. I have been a big fan of Yoga with Adrienne, and she has a new 30-day yoga challenge that I’m on day 4 of. I highly recommend checking her out for some approachable yoga practice! https://yogawithadriene.com/breath-a-30-day-yoga-journey/

00:53:52 Jennifer Scheib: Great one Kate!!

00:54:07 Aleta Williams: Thanks for sharing Craig. I have to look more into avoidance.

00:55:36 Emily Rose Prats: i do think we also live in productivity-obsessed culture, so i love fiction to learn from so i can also get great stories

00:55:40 Dana Wakeley: I’m a fan of “Feelings” The Wonder Journal by Amber Rae

00:57:58 Aleta Williams: That is great Jennifer

00:58:06 Kalena Michalec: That’s so great to hear, Jennifer!

00:58:24 Craig Pais: I’ve been there too with those kinds of environments, Jennifer – they can really sap your energy!

00:59:57 Alison Barsan: I am glad to hear you are choosing happiness instead of focusing on the toxic work environment

01:00:02 Aleta Williams: Social media – avoidance…

01:00:21 Aleta Williams: Use your drive to your advantage

01:01:58 Belma McCaffrey: The Hidden Brain

01:02:31 Emily Rose Prats: invisibilia is another pod that’s really inspiring – all about the invisible forces inside & around us that shape us & the world

01:02:37 Dana Wakeley: Thought my next meeting was at 1:30pm not 1pm 🙁 Jumping off for that but thank you all for sharing. I resonated with so much of your experiences and the resources that were shared! Talk soon.

01:03:25 Craig Pais: I’ve started listening to UnF*ck Your Brain by Kara Loewentheil. She’s a student of the Life Coach School Podcast (from Brooke Castillo)

01:04:32 Alison Barsan: That was on my audio book holds list—I haven’t listened to it yet!

01:05:29 Emily Rose Prats: story of my life

01:06:18 Aleta Williams: I take on projects and make them bigger than they need to be

01:07:19 Aleta Williams: Show up for yourself

01:07:29 Alison Barsan: yes yes yes

01:07:30 Kalena Michalec: Showing up for yourself, love that. <3

01:08:29 Alison Barsan: Yes, listening instead of trying to help and solve the problem!

01:08:47 Craig Pais: Good for you!

01:08:48 Alison Barsan: resonate with what you said Gyasi!

01:09:08 Jennifer Janes: Great job Gyasi!

01:09:10 Wendy Avenius: Yay, awesome Gyasi! Baby steps..

01:09:33 Aleta Williams: Thanks for sharing Gyasi…very helpful

01:11:01 Hannah Webb: Have to run, but great session to kick off the new year and lovely to meet everyone! Thanks for sharing and supporting! 🙂

01:13:52 Wendy Avenius: I have to jump off, great seeing all and thanks for sharing! And welcome to Kristina and Craig!

01:14:56 Gyasi Schwartz-Woods: Thanks ya’ll 🙂

01:17:27 Alison Barsan: Yes, Kristin!

01:18:38 Jennifer Janes: Yes, put yourself first! This is so hard for me too.

01:19:14 Jennifer Scheib: Yes to all of it Kristin!

01:19:16 Aleta Williams: I love that

01:19:28 Gyasi Schwartz-Woods: Yes Kristin – towards your purpose

01:19:37 Alison Barsan: I resonate with everything you just said!

01:19:41 Emily Rose Prats: this is such a familiar story to me! i have a similar experience where i go weeks without making a doctors appointment b/c i can’t take 5 mins out of the day to do something for myself

01:19:46 Alison Barsan: thank you for your share Kristin!

01:20:28 Jennifer Scheib: Literally my week Emily, lol Finally made the dentist appointment after WEEKS of procrastinating.

01:20:54 Emily Rose Prats: yeah, very cool that you shared, kristin. thank you. it’s helpful to hear similar stories

01:20:58 Emily Rose Prats: ahaha Jennifer yesss

01:21:21 Kate Barney: Kudos, Kristin! I hate that I have to jump off, but thank you all for this call and the inspiration!

01:22:09 Craig Pais: I really like the post-it note idea

01:24:07 Jennifer Janes: Celebrating the wins no matter how small!

01:24:40 Emily Rose Prats: for me i also recognize that the culture i live in reinforces doing way too much and putting ourselves second. it’s that martyr complex that the catholic women in my family passed down ; ) but also work culture is like YAY shoutout to this person for going way above & beyond…even though we’re not getting paid to go above and beyond or getting that time back for ourselves in any way

01:25:06 Emily Rose Prats: so i know i receive praise for behavior that doesn’t serve me

01:25:13 Alison Barsan: I agree Emily Rose!

01:26:20 Aleta Williams: Thanks for the comment Emily Rose

01:31:16 Kalena Michalec: Learned: I am a passive action taker. Learner and Input in my top 5 strengths I am always taking in information but struggle to take action (low execution) and it helps me when I have people directly working with me to hold me accountable

01:31:26 Kalena Michalec: Whoops! Sorry didn’t mean to send that 🙂

01:31:53 Jennifer Janes: @Belma can you remind me of the book you are referring to?

01:31:57 Alison Barsan: I wrote something similar!

01:33:22 Jennifer Scheib: I’d love that too!

01:34:05 Jennifer Janes: Fantastic idea!

01:34:07 Aleta Williams: I have a 10:30 meeting. Jumping off. Great meeting today. Enjoy your week!!!

01:34:10 Alison Barsan: Yay!!!

01:35:26 Belma McCaffrey: joyful and energized

01:35:30 Jennifer Janes: Confidence and growth

01:35:36 Gyasi Schwartz-Woods: Change and vulnerability

01:35:36 Craig Pais: Motivated and relieved

01:35:40 Kristina Lough: feet grounded & calmer

01:35:45 Kalena Michalec: Ready & Excited

01:35:46 Emily Rose Prats: concentrating on my needs

01:35:48 Kristin Chasky: Connectedness and hopeful

01:35:57 Alison Barsan: feeling better!

01:35:57 Jennifer Scheib: Breathwork & accountability